this was a really strange read for me. it seems like there's a shadow dialogue happening between the deep knowledge you both posses and the "we have questions" (is this like "just asking questions"?) framing.
in spite of all the emphasis on transmisogyny, somehow it's still trans femmes who are most called on here to account for ourselves. why should we seek to fill a gap we have no stake in?
you two talk as though non-binary femmes (heroically, but also for fun) put on some makeup and change their pronouns and thereby become illegible. for my part, i have always felt illegible (how is that for a phenomenology of non-binary gender).
most of the answers to your questions here are in your own the text if you begin from the assumption that non-binary people have a genuine experience of their gender as neither men nor women.
as for what separates nb trans femmes from gay men, it's probably the rampant lesbianism.
i'm a nonbinary transsexual femme. or at least i think so, i have no fucking clue. i was kept sequestered from other faggots and queers by first my parents' hand and then my own for more than three decades, afraid to find my place. plus heapfuls of internalized phobias and misogynies. so it's not even been 10 years since i first started thinking of my gendered identity, mostly in private for fear of reprisal from all sides.
i dunno what the difference is — for me — between being a transsexual woman and being a nonbinary femme. it all does come down to "how do you want to live?" i think being a transsexual is the method i'm using to express my nonbinary femme-ness? and it could be the other way around for all i know, that i'm using my nonbinary-ness as a stopover to being "just" a transsexual
i really don't know. further confusing matters is i'm only two years into my transition so it feels like how the world interacts with me changes month-to-month and i have to re-contextualize my place in it month-to-month
this was a really strange read for me. it seems like there's a shadow dialogue happening between the deep knowledge you both posses and the "we have questions" (is this like "just asking questions"?) framing.
in spite of all the emphasis on transmisogyny, somehow it's still trans femmes who are most called on here to account for ourselves. why should we seek to fill a gap we have no stake in?
you two talk as though non-binary femmes (heroically, but also for fun) put on some makeup and change their pronouns and thereby become illegible. for my part, i have always felt illegible (how is that for a phenomenology of non-binary gender).
most of the answers to your questions here are in your own the text if you begin from the assumption that non-binary people have a genuine experience of their gender as neither men nor women.
as for what separates nb trans femmes from gay men, it's probably the rampant lesbianism.
i'm a nonbinary transsexual femme. or at least i think so, i have no fucking clue. i was kept sequestered from other faggots and queers by first my parents' hand and then my own for more than three decades, afraid to find my place. plus heapfuls of internalized phobias and misogynies. so it's not even been 10 years since i first started thinking of my gendered identity, mostly in private for fear of reprisal from all sides.
i dunno what the difference is — for me — between being a transsexual woman and being a nonbinary femme. it all does come down to "how do you want to live?" i think being a transsexual is the method i'm using to express my nonbinary femme-ness? and it could be the other way around for all i know, that i'm using my nonbinary-ness as a stopover to being "just" a transsexual
i really don't know. further confusing matters is i'm only two years into my transition so it feels like how the world interacts with me changes month-to-month and i have to re-contextualize my place in it month-to-month